Dear Isobel & Eve

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Firstly I’m sorry that this letter is to both of you and I have not written one letter to each of you like I did for Lily. Since you have been born we have tried so hard to treat you as individuals and to nurture your individual personalities, yet at times like this it is impossible not to think of you together as you start the next step of your journey, starting school; together but separately.

On Tuesday you will do the usual walk to school we have done every day since Lily started but this time you will not be going into pre-school together, but you will be going into separate classes for the first time,  a decision we have made.

As I type this letter I have started to cry, real proper tears, I have no idea how I am going to get through next Tuesday without you seeing this doubt I have, and I must. I must watch you walk into school without each other and if you wobble (which you might) I have to smile confidently and tell you it’ll be brilliant and you will love your time in school and your space from each other.

I truly believe we are doing the right thing. You have such different identities and you are starting to be cross that people can’t see that and get you confused. You are so close but also competitive, you have always had to share things, birthdays, presents, your face, a bedroom.

Your class will be yours and yours alone. You will hopefully make your own friends and have your own parties to attend, your own play dates. It’s the start of a new journey that doesn’t involve each other in everything you do.

It’s going to be tough for us all. I’m currently trying to work out how to plan a party for possibly 60 kids and, worried about the possible 60 party invites you might receive. I’m worried that one of you might be able to go to more parties than the other, and worried that one of you might be more popular and settle quicker.  It’s the same issues all parents worry about but somehow it seems to be magnified.

I rationalise the decision by working out that you will only actually be apart for about 5 hours with break time and lunch but it’s bigger than that and I know it.

I hope when you’re a little bigger and you read this you will understand why we made the decision and I hope that you think we were right. But for now I want you both to know how proud we both are of you. You have grown into such amazing beautiful girls who are truly a delight to be around. I am so thankful for the time we had the last 6 months as the early days were so hard, it’s been very special to have some fun time and enjoy this crazy blogging world with you.

I know that you will take the learning at school in your stride, you’ve been trying to keep up with Lily this year as it is. So I hope you go into school with that confidence and enjoy making new friends, cementing other friendships and becoming strong independent girls in your own right.

With all my love

Xxxxxx

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  • Hayley Smith
    September 1, 2016

    Ah Karen that must have been a tough decision to make but you know them best and I’m sure they will do great! Lucas has identical twins in his year in different classes and they have been fine, the classes were next to each other so for the first week the teachers let them come and show each other work etc but slowly is dropped off and they each have their own friends. I have no idea what I’ll do with mine, the thought of seperating them in hard but it may be for the best. I hope your girls enjoy it, I’m sure they’ll thank you when they’re older xxx

    • karenbeddow
      karenbeddow
      September 1, 2016

      thanks Hayley we have been talking to them about it since Lily started last year so they seem totally fine with it! Fingers crossed I am!

  • Mrs H
    September 1, 2016

    Oh Karen, this must have been such a tough decision to make. But it sounds like you have thought it through very carefully and that you are doing what you think is in the girl’s best interests. There will come a time when they can’t always be together and don’t want to. I imagine that it is better to prepare them for that time now. And the start of school, with all its new adventures, does feel like the best time to do that. I really hope Tuesday goes well. I will be thinking of you, Izzy and Eve. Hugs Lucy xxxx

    • karenbeddow
      karenbeddow
      September 1, 2016

      thanks my lovely, it is going to be strange but good (I think!)

  • Nuala Grimshaw
    September 1, 2016

    Karen that is beautiful. Nearly made me cry. Hope they love school.

  • mummyofboygirltwins
    September 1, 2016

    Ahhhh so lovely and they’ll do so well! Good luck for next week 🙂 xx

  • Katy (What Katy Said)
    September 3, 2016

    Oh Karen, such a difficult decision but one I’d have made I think. I’ve had some twins split and some kept in the same class over the years and I do believe splitting helps them to grow as individuals. They will always always share so much, so allowing them this time apart will strengthen the bond I think. Hope it all goes well, we can all commiserate on Twitter together x

  • natalie
    September 3, 2016

    oh lovely this made me cry – it must be hard to made decisions like this, I struggle with it a little with my girls even though they are completely different ages one is more popular than the other something I worry about. Good luck for Tuesday looking forward to reading how they get on! ps – when I first read this I did think ‘but what about all the parties!’

  • Chloe (Sorry About The Mess)
    September 6, 2016

    Oh, I can’t imagine the decision-making you’ve had to do, but as you said, it’s only 5 hours a day really. Hope they both have happy first days at school.

  • Sarah Christie
    September 6, 2016

    Ah Karen such a beautiful post, I hope the girls had a fab day today, I am sure you have made the right decision to give them the chance to be individual xxx

  • Sian QuiteFranklySheSaid
    September 9, 2016

    Aww Karen, I was crying straight away reading this. It must have been such a hard decision to make, but it makes such perfect sense to do this. I hope the girls have an absolute blast. Thank you for linking up to #HappyDaysLinky x

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